A Grandmother’s Story: I Can Only Imagine

Today, my Mom is back with a post reflecting back on yesterday’s candlelight Wave of Light for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and Remembrance Day. I’d like to thank the dozens of people all over the country – family and friends – who took the time out on a Saturday night to light a candle in honor of our sweet baby. It means the world to us. Watch our video message and candlelighting. ~Christina

Yesterday, I woke up feeling angry not having Emmett with us. I don’t know if it had anything to do with the fact that October 15th is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Since Emmett’s due date has passed, I feel as though I missed another milestone and many other milestones.

My mom’s candle for the Wave of Light at 7 p.m. on Oct. 15, 2016. #candlesforemmett #pailawareness

I keep thinking I should be with Brett and my daughter, holding a new baby, cooing and aww-ing and making all kinds of crazy noises that grandparents make. Fussing over how to change a diaper and reminding everyone, “hold his tiny head carefully.” That’s what grandparents are supposed to do. Is this how you’re supposed to feel after a loss? Does anyone else out there feel like this as a grandparent who has experienced a loss?

Just last week, my family had another tragedy. My sister’s fiancé lost his only son, Brandon, to a violent crime. What’s really tragic is, he just turned 21 a week earlier. He had a lifetime of things to still experience. Now, there’s another parent struggling with grief. Another parent living with the “what if’s,” regrets and pain. Another parent changed by circumstances. It was extremely hard to see all of Brandon’s friends at his memorial service. All of them so heartbroken and so young. How will his friends be affected by his passing? I know for me, as I said on my previous blog, whether someone lives 90 seconds or 99 years, in Brandon’s situation, 21 years, his loss impacts our lives.

It hurts to hear from people when they say, “Oh, your daughter is young, she can have another child” or “You’ll have another grandchild.” When I hear this, I feel like I’m supposed to forget Emmett. I’m supposed to make my daughter forget Emmett. Why should I trivialize his life because he didn’t live 99 years? Again, anyone else feel like this?

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Candles for Emmett

img_6249October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month and Saturday, October 15, 2016. The month was first recognized in 1988 by Pres. Ronald Reagan. In 2002, a movement was started to recognize Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day on Oct. 15. As of 2016, all 50 U.S. states have yearly proclamations. There currently isn’t a World Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness or Remembrance Day that is recognized on an international level.

I wanted to commemorate Emmett in some way on this special occasion. In doing so, we are joining the overarching Wave of Light. At 7 p.m. local time, you can light a candle in memory of a pregnancy or baby lost too soon. Please join us and light a candle for Emmett and the other babies to always remember with a chain of light that will spread all around the globe.

You can join the Facebook Event and share with others. On October 15, come back to the group or this blog and post a picture of your candle lighting or you can also use the hashtag #candlesforemmett on social networks like Twitter and Instagram to tag your photos.